I am sad for all the things that we won't experience with you...all of your first and seconds and thirty-thirds...all the things I don't know about you. I can infer some things because you have siblings and we might assume that you would be similar but I will not know about YOU personally, at least not for a long while, until we meet again. I am sad that there will always been an asterisk in our family...we tell people that this is our 5th baby we are expecting and when they ask us the ages of the other four...there's the * by you. Because while we know how old you are (14 months old on the 18th of Oct), you are not here with us and it seems wrong not to include you in our family line up but also weird not to acknowledge the fact that you are not with us. Such a hard subject to broach, and all from a simple question asked by a stranger who has no idea what this last year has been for our family.
There are things I am not sad about...I will never be sad that you came to our family. That you are still a part of our family. You will always be with us, in our hearts, in our minds. We feel you near us, we think of you everyday. We say goodnight to you every night. We visit your memorial marker and speak to you. But we will always want more. Because we love you. Very much. We were at a mall play area a couple of weeks ago and I saw some little boys running around, one a year old and one 15 months old, and I saw another little boy there, 13.5 months old, fitting right in, and playing with them...it was you. And it was all I could do to not cry.
But we always smile when we think of the 7 weeks that you were here in our home. You brought us and those around you so much joy and love. We all remember how sweet and soft and little you were. How your diapers didn't smell bad, how you were learning to smile and make little cute noises. We will keep those treasures in our hearts, until we are reunited again. Because we know that families are forever, and we know that you are not all that far from us, and that one day we will all be together again.
We love you.
Mom, Dad and your crazy siblings